Do you use any of the dating apps available on the market? Tinder, Bumble, Happn,… In any of them, a dilemma always arises: either be very restricted and demanding or do Zeca Pagodinho and let “life take me”.
In any case, this could create a big problem for you and raise a “red flag” for people on the other side.
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Think with me: if you veto anyone who doesn't have a "perfect" profile - by your own standard - you never slide the photo to the side of the heart. And if you say “yes” too much, you wait for a magical moment that never happens and you end up frustrated.
In this way, you end up developing it, the star of this article: the negativity.
The biggest problem with dating apps is negativity, says expert
"One of the biggest 'fault nets' on a dating app profile is negativity," says Rachel DeAlto, dating expert at Match.com. This is not a well-known dating site here in Brazil, but it is widely used in other countries to find the ideal match.
For her, an adult who lives in the basement of her parents' house still manages to be better than an extremely negative person. “[With a lot of negativity], you end up ‘setting yourself up’ for failure and heartbreak,” adds DeAlto.
How to recognize the profile of a negative person?
According to Rachel, the first point to observe is whether the other person's profile is full of “don'ts”. For example, “don't like if you don't like such a thing” or “I don't want to meet people who don't like this and that”.
Another point, according to the Match.com expert, is to observe boring phrases in profiles. Of this type, she underlines: “I don't know why I'm here” or “Giving the app a chance again”.
"None relationship it will be good if the other person is in a negative state,” she says.
Who to look for in dating apps?
The ideal, advises DeAlto, is to look for people who list what want in the profile. This not only shows that the other person has a more “up to date” mind, but also underscores your values.
“The main thing is that people give each other a chance,” he explains. “If you have similar life values and find yourself somewhere in the middle in these areas, take a risk”.
Graduated in Social Communication at the Federal University of Goiás. Passionate about digital media, pop culture, technology, politics and psychoanalysis.