It is a fact that in our social cycle there are always people with high manipulation skills who end up directly affecting those around them. This way of acting is called gaslighting. After identifying these attitudes, we began to observe gaslighters more. However, we also need to pay attention to whether there is an inner gaslighter in us.
Pay attention to the characteristics of a gaslighter
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It is already a fact that the environment in which a child is raised says a lot about the adult he will become. When they are in situations where most of their needs are not met, they begin to feed a belief that they can only trust themselves and that it is through them that needs will be met.
However, these children begin to constantly believe that they are not good enough and that they are constantly failing. Faced with this extremely punitive scenario, they become increasingly self-demanding.
In addition to the factors mentioned above, we have to consider that there are situations in which children they are humiliated and abused and, therefore, begin to develop a feeling of shame, fear and abandonment.
And so begins an abusive relationship through a negative conversation between an insecure child and a very strong internal critic. That relationship is called gaslighting.
Check below 5 internal characteristics of people who suffer from gaslighting:
- They feel the need to always be correct and do not like contrary opinions;
- They are able to make you question yourself all the time;
- Uses your vulnerabilities to constantly attack you;
- They use threats to put people in situations of rejection;
- They manipulate everyone until they believe exclusively in them.
The good thing about all of this is that there are ways for you to recover from internalized records as a child. First, be aware that it is possible to assume a personality with parts, that is, the inner critic exists, but it is possible to let the “real me” speak louder and balance all feelings.
Assuming authority over the inner critic is critical, as is having an observant sense of when he is speaking. Also, know how to recognize how you feel when the inner critic is at work. Finally, argue against it and take care of your vulnerable inner child who feels fear and shame.