Typically, people can engage in dishonesty, even in some cases without ulterior motives. In fact, people's honesty depends a lot on context. This means that not all individuals are dishonest in the same way, nor to the same extent, and therefore it is not possible to fix the universal traits of every dishonest person.
However, there are people whose dishonesty is a constant and predominant feature of their personality, and who continually commit dishonest acts. Dishonest people prove themselves sooner or later, and this is where their social environment tends to show their reservations and withdraw their trust.
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Provenly dishonest people in relationships are, mainly due to the environment in the educational base formation, the family. If it comes from environments where the model has established itself in this way, it will probably repeat what it has learned.
How to deal with dishonest people
When dealing with dishonest people, the first step is to focus on a high level of awareness for yourself. An immediate way to increase your awareness is to clear your mental clutter through emotional nurturing, good nutrition, and physical activity.
Having a higher awareness helps you keep perspective when communicating with dishonest people. Although they may attempt to perform deceitful acts, your higher awareness allows you to see through these actions and be immune to them. This puts you in the right, higher frequency state to take the next step.
- Respond authentically and honestly
Instead of a fear-based attitude, respond to the person with an understanding-based attitude. Treat the person with emotional generosity: honesty, kindness, love, and positivity all rolled into one. If you want others to be honest, start by being an example of what honesty is so that others can follow your example. Treating a dishonest person honestly is a more effective way to raise your awareness than reacting dishonestly.
- get away from that person
Even if you have the best intentions of helping the person, sometimes it's better to walk away. When you condone dishonesty, you do yourself a disservice by allowing yourself to be taken advantage of. You also let the person think that it's okay to continue with their dishonest behavior. Remember it takes two to “dance to the music”.
As much as the person has to take responsibility for the dishonesty, you also have a role to play if you continue to tolerate this behavior.
- think of you
If you are dealing with dishonest people, remember that you are the overall manager of your life and you have full responsibility for what happens to you. Never victimize yourself or blame the people around you. No matter what happens, you always have the power to choose your path and protect yourself so you don't suffer from issues that don't belong to you.
Psychologist, postgraduate in Business Management Executive Coaching and Skills. Writer with international training for creative writing and storytelling. Researcher at Dakila Pesquisas, creation of Pedagogical Coaching methodology for parents and educators.