Self-sabotage is when, consciously or not, we create obstacles that get in the way of our own tasks, goals and dreams. The act of acting against oneself is often linked to negative thinking, which, when rooted in our minds, promotes harmful habits and behaviors. Learn how to beat them.
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What are we trying to hide?
It is understood that self-sabotage may be related to childhood trauma, insecurities and fears of failure, the unknown and ridicule. However, knowing why we act in such a way may require a functional analysis, a strategy widely used in psychology to understand behaviors.
For example: if you've spent hours or even days procrastinating about an activity, conversation or dream, have you ever stopped to think that your problem is really a lack of will or fear of failure? Procrastinating is a form of self-sabotage, as well as not recognizing your achievements, feeling inferior, always comparing yourself to others and even constantly being a perfectionist.
How to overcome this behavior?
Understanding that nothing is done randomly and that there is a reason behind every action is a good start to get out of that state. That's why you need to seek new horizons, understand yourself and seek the real reasons that lead you to self-sabotage, as well as what your triggers are.
Setting goals can also help you on this new path, as it will help you avoid situations that activate your triggers. In addition, you should work on your own self-esteem so that you can recognize your qualities and talents, respect your body and mind, and understand your mistakes and shortcomings.
If you feel that you can't get away from these patterns and that you constantly return to self-sabotage, you need to seek help from a psychologist or therapist. Deconstructing thoughts and attitudes may not be as simple as it seems, so it's essential to look for a professional as soon as possible.