The imposter syndrome is associated with negative emotions, such as feeling insufficient or a fraud in what you do. The result can be to stop doing what bringsinsecurity, an attitude that in the long run can be harmful. For that reason, it's important to figure out how to deal with the imposter syndrome in order to get around it.
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Understand how the syndrome works
It always makes the individual believe that he is insufficient or incompetent. The result of this is the false perception of being a fraud ready to be discovered at any time.
As much as it seems a seductive idea to put aside an activity with the potential to cause insecurity, the rooting this negative belief in the long term can prevent the person from building things that bring happiness and personal wealth.
- Make room for conflict
Our mind is composed of feelings, thoughts and memories of the most diverse types. Therefore, it is important to exercise reflection to understand exactly why you are thinking you are a fraud.
Ask yourself what makes you think it's a lie, what parts of you see it differently, then list the reasons why you're not a fraud. This exercise makes you understand that the good and bad parts are in you! Knowing how to differentiate them is fundamental.
- Discover your imposter part
The habit of questioning yourself can make you connect directly with your imposter part, which can give you the possibility to act with compassion and kindness with your mistakes.
Imagine when was the last time you felt like a fraud and ask yourself: when was the first time that feeling manifested itself? What was happening in that period? Was there concrete evidence or was it just a feeling? How does the syndrome manifest itself physically? All this is very important.
- Name your emotions and validate what you feel
Validating your emotions, that is, recognizing that they exist and are there is an important step towards acceptance. Sadness, anguish, anger, and joy are just a few common types of emotions. Find out which ones accompany your syndrome and validate all of them.
Think of a circumstance where you felt like an imposter and translate into words the emotions you felt or feel about it. It is possible to have some conflicting ones, such as sadness and excitement. Find out what they are and see what the worst can happen, so you can decide how to act.
- Be compassionate and loving with your insecurities
Compassion with your emotions helps you feel better because it eases the tension within. For many people, harsh demands as a child can make it difficult for compassion to manifest itself, but welcoming your most vulnerable part will bring you calmer than a tough attitude and judgmental.
