White Knight Syndrome is the compulsion to be the hero, savior, protector within a relationship, seeming to live a book romance. This trait is often developed during childhood. His living in a place where his guardian suffered for some specific reason and because he was a child he was unable to help is one of the causes. In the syndrome, after growing up, it is normal to want to make up with your partners for what you could not do as a child. Know the 3 signs of this syndrome.
Signs of White Knight Syndrome
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Among the main features of the syndrome are:
Tendency to associate with people in need of “rescue”
To make up for what you couldn't do when child with your parents or caregivers, you look for someone who needs your salvation, your help, and these people are usually more attractive to you in your adult life.
It's common for you to see dating stories with people with drug addiction problems, psychological problems, sexual or verbal abuse, people with low
self esteem. For you, the drama this person brings makes you look like a white knight, the savior.You romanticize your partner too much
Even though your partner has a lot of problems, you put him on a pedestal, worshiping him in a way that's a bit over the top. You see great potential in him and only see his positive qualities.
And because of that, you try to “solve problems” for him, in an act that you consider a salvation. Even if that person is not wanting to be helped or that he needs your help, a professional is often needed.
This thought of helping at any cost, in the white knight's mind, is the demonstration of love he has for that person, but it is necessary to have a measure and recognize that the partners are human and not some kind of gods.
Accused of being controlling
Because you think your partner needs saving, you start making decisions that seem best to you. she, however, forgets that they are people with opinions, free will and ends up controlling the partner's actions and life.
You may see these actions as just being helpful, but telling your partner what to do, who to see, or how to behave isn't helpful, it's controlling.
This type of behavior can have the opposite effect on the relationship, it can start to push your partner away from you.
If you identify with these signs, you need to seek professional help to be able to better treat and cope with White Knight Syndrome so you don't have to carry this pain around you.