The scheme of emotional inhibition it is a condition of subconscious numbing of emotions, with the implicit belief that emotions are a problem, cause pain, vulnerability and should be avoided. It is often the result of childhood experiences where the emotions were not well received by parents or caregivers.
People who suffer from an Emotional Inhibition Schema, in addition to anxiety symptoms, experience strong emotions in response to relationships or situations in everyday life. The feeling is that you have more important things to do instead of dealing with your feelings.
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The tendency is to behave avoiding unpleasant feelings, but this means that they also lose out on experiencing feelings of love and affection. In fact, they may also feel that they are missing out on the emotional experiences that most people have.
Signs of the Emotional Inhibition Schema
- You often feel dull, serious or empty;
- Feeling emotion is “not the style”;
- Avoids situations where other people express emotions;
- Distances himself from opportunities to express emotions;
- Frustrates loved ones who see you as "tense" or distant, through situations of emotional behavior;
- Hides emotions or feels emotions only when away from others;
- You only experience emotions in impersonal ways, such as watching TV, movies, or commercials.
Origins of the Emotional Inhibition Schema
Most people with emotional inhibition are emotional by nature, which means that emotion naturally arises in reaction to needs, relationships and everyday situations. But at an early age, he may have to adjust to a situation where the outward expression of emotion has been ignored or punished. May have had family members who were emotionally inhibited.
As a child, she learned to metabolize emotion from her conscious experience, or at the very least push it into a private place where feelings could only occur when she was alone.
He grew up in a family context where showing emotions often led to being punished, hurt, ridiculed, exploited or neglected, with parents or families where everyone was detached from emotions.
How to overcome?
The prospect of being more open to emotion is a new process that involves patience, practice, and self-care. We all learn to feel, validate, and manage emotions as part of the growth process. So even as an adult, becoming more open to feelings can have its ups and downs, and requires patience, curiosity, humility, and kindness to yourself and others.
By developing a new awareness of emotions, you may be able to share your needs with loved ones. Attend your emotions carefully, validation, safety and feed them. Once you realize your feelings, it's up to you to take care of them.
Consider your past, validate the schemas formed as a way of adapting to new experiences. So it is likely that you formed this schema for good reasons in childhood, keep a diary about your experiences, with a new vision that expressing emotions, there are enormous gains for your life and with the people of your coexistence.
Psychologist, postgraduate in Business Management Executive Coaching and Skills. Writer with international training for creative writing and storytelling. Researcher at Dakila Pesquisas, creation of Pedagogical Coaching methodology for parents and educators.
