The word attachment conceptually means having affection or sympathy for someone. How a person will shape their attachment style will depend on the affectionate relationships they have had throughout their lives. In today's article, we're going to talk a little about the attachment theory and name the main attachment styles in a relationship.
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Attachment theory was developed by psychologist Mary Ainsworth and psychiatrist John Bowlby, with the aim of discussing this subject that is not much addressed during life.
It is of paramount importance that we analyze our relationship patterns, to find out if that attitude is healthy or not – both for you and for your partner.
According to this theory, the type of attachment of each person is defined during their lifetime, based on their affectionate relationships – mainly during childhood. There are 3 types of attachment, these being the anxious attachment style, avoidant attachment style and secure attachment style.
Check below how each style is characterized and identify which one you fit in:
1. anxious attachment style
This attachment style is related to the fear/concern of the other person in the relationship's retribution regarding availability. Anxiously attached people often have a sense of unworthiness. However, they strive for self-acceptance, linking their approval to their relationships.
2. avoidant attachment style
Characterized by being aloof and closed off, people with an avoidant attachment style tend to avoid interactions, close relationships, and intimacy. They like to maintain a sense of independence and invulnerability.
3. Secure fastening style
In this third attachment style, people tend to care about their self-esteem and want to be themselves in their relationships. They create expectations regarding support and comfort with their partners. Because of this, they have several positive characteristics, such as: knowing how to regulate emotions and feelings, fighting to trust others, feel comfortable with yourself and know how to reflect and analyze your situation in a relationship.