Every human being has a way of seeing the world, according to their luggage and life experience. And from that context, the entire basis of behavior is aligned to the conscious or unconscious choices of their attitudes.
In psychology, we identify fantasy as a defense mechanism for people, which consists of creating thoughts, which exists only in the imagination of those who create it, with the aim of providing an immediate satisfaction, which cannot be obtained in the real life.
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Fantasies consist of a way of alleviating suffering or avoiding the person having to face their own feelings of guilt, anguish or responsibility for something. This resource is often completely unconscious, to relieve pain or discomfort about certain acts.
In the relationship between people, many conflicts can occur due to the different points of view of each being involved in the facts experienced. If fantasies are between different points of view and often created in the imagination, how can there not be conflicts?
Therefore, people often distance themselves in relationships, with justifications that are plausible in the reading of each of those involved. Do you realize how important it is to understand human relationships?
We often generate feelings of rejection and distance ourselves from people, which they do not understand. The same happens when people walk away from us and we don't understand why. Be able to analyze facts, self-knowledge and distancing oneself from fantasies, is a good exercise to maintain good relationships and avoid distortions, harming interaction between people.
Human relationships extend far beyond having a good relationship with the people around you. They are decisive and impact our motivation, productivity and satisfaction in all areas of life. Having the ability to develop and maintain good human relationships is crucial to achieving good results in personal and professional life.
Now that you already know about fantasies and how they interfere with human relationships, realize how important it is to put this knowledge into practice. Identifying what is fantasy and what is reality can help considerably in the relationships between you and other people.
People need essential social elements for a fuller life, such as social approval, affection, protection, influence and self-realization. Between the path of stagnation or development, the latter is preferable, as it enables us to establishment of healthy and productive relationships, nurturing our experience in relationships with people.
A good emotional and mental structure is extremely important for any relationship, because if we have positive points to collaborate with, most likely, we will receive the same. It is precisely in this connection that we can see how necessary the factor of self-knowledge is. And only in this way can we identify what is fantasy and reality in relationships with people.
Therefore, to start having healthy relationships on a daily basis, you must be willing to expand your mind and consequently your positive relationships with people.
Psychologist, postgraduate in Business Management Executive Coaching and Skills. Writer with international training for creative writing and storytelling. Researcher at Dakila Pesquisas, creation of Pedagogical Coaching methodology for parents and educators.
