The dream of most parents is for their children to be successful, isn't it? For this, many of them invest in a more rigorous upbringing, often forgetting important parts during the children's growth, such as affection and dialogue.
When this happens, according to research carried out by the University of Kobe, Japan, the tendency is for these children to become unhappy adults.
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The price of a rigid creation
According to research carried out by the Japanese, the way parents choose to raise their children has a huge impact on the adult lives of these young people. Although many of them manage to achieve a life considered “successful” by society and their families, it is a process that can be psychologically very costly, with the development of some disorders, such as social phobia, anxiety and even depression.
How was the research done?
To arrive at this conclusion, the researchers analyzed the form of fatherhood and motherhood of more than 5,000 families in the country. After collecting the information, they were cataloged, determining six types of parents: rigid, indulgent, supportive, rough, malleable and average.
Through these results and data crossing, the reports indicated that the children of stricter parents tend to be more successful, usually with a high level of education and high positions in their jobs. However, when it comes to mood and happiness, they reached a very low average. In addition, the level of parental interest in these children was also considered very low.
Why can rigidity make children unhappy?
According to other research, children of extremely strict parents, common in some cultures around the world, are much more likely to develop relationship problems, low self-esteem, and even addiction chemical. This happens because they become very dependent, compromising their autonomy and making them only do what their parents think is best.
Of course, discipline is still important, but avoiding authoritarianism is even more so, as it can end up creating a repressed adult, unable to show his emotions. For this reason, it is essential to find a middle ground, demonstrating authority in an affective way, without impacting the other individual's right to choose.
