Passion and love are two very strong feelings, but that we already know... And however related they are, they are totally different, and this is where the confusion starts!
Can you identify what characterizes passion and love? Psychologists, philosophers and even neurologists are dedicated to studying these feelings and delimiting the differences of each one.
In order not to make mistakes when declaring yourself, know how to recognize if what you feel is love or passion!
attraction factors
Psychology defines passion as the manifestation of the phenomenon of projection, that is, when a person projects their idealizations on their partner (a).
This means that when we are in love we are attracted by our idealization of others, and not necessarily by the person as he truly is.
Usually, when we are in love, the characteristics that attract us the most are the physical ones, be it the beautiful eyes, the lips, the smooth skin or the smile, for example.
With true love, we can see far beyond appearances, we identify the call
"inner beauty" of the person, that is, their values, their authenticity and personality turn out to be as exciting or more exciting than a beautiful smile.Illusions also disappear with love. People who truly love each other are able to identify their partner's strengths and weaknesses and, even with fights, choose to deal with adversity in favor of a life together.
When does it start and when does it end?
Several authors describe passion as an "overwhelming feeling" and, like a big storm, it usually does a lot of damage, but eventually it comes to an end...
Some studies on human behavior say that passion can last a few weeks or years (1 to 2 years on average). After this period, either: end of relationship or beginning of a love story.
Unlike infatuation, love doesn't happen "at first sight." This feeling is quite deep and complex, and it takes a long period of time for it to develop.
And anyone who thinks that love is guaranteed forever is wrong. Yes, loves can come to an end! But for this not to happen, the couple must never fail to strive to respect, care and be honest with each other.
Learn more about meaning of passion.
"The ideal weekend"
In other words: what is the perfect program for you and your partner?
As passion is a more intense phase, there is a need to "live intensely" the relationship, so it is common for couples in love to want to be constantly in each other's company, whether for a romantic dinner with a sea view or lying on the sofa choosing any series on Netflix!
Attention, it does not mean that in love there is no such concern or desire, but when we love we are not only present for the programs fun and romantic, but also for what we know is important to the partner, even if it's the most boring thing in the world For you.
In short: to love is to unconditionally support others, making even the most boring shows - like attending a seminar on astrophysics or going on birthday of the partner's nephews (a) – be great, just to see the face of satisfaction and happiness of the person you love.
How do you face the moments of crisis?
Some authors consider passion as the “honeymoon phase” of the relationship, where fights are not as constant. But, they always end up arriving. Ever.
And when that happens, it might be a good opportunity for you to reflect on your true feelings for your partner.
Fights exist (and a lot) even between people who love each other, the difference between moments of crisis in passion and in love is the way we deal with situations.
If you simply do not accept concessions to appease a conflict situation, preferring only “run away” from dramas and avoid confusion, so ok, maybe this person isn't even the “love of yours” life".
Love is made up of exchanges and consensus. We can even get angry and want to get away, but when we fight with someone we truly love, the desire to put the dots on the i’s and find a solution to the crisis always speaks louder. At these times it is important for both of you to be open to understanding not only who you are as individuals, but also your partner's feelings and views.
Dialogue and understanding are two important ingredients in a successful love relationship!
What is most important in the relationship?
If the first thing you think about when you reflect on your relationship is the wonderful "carnal" chemistry you have, then chances are, love hasn't knocked on your door yet.
Don't get it wrong, this kind of intimate contact is essential in any love relationship… But in love, sex is far from the most important thing. When we love we want to guarantee of the happiness of the loved one, and the desire to care for and help the partner to achieve their most audacious dreams and goals.
The most important thing in love is just that: fight and ensure the happiness of those you love! Remembering that this feeling needs to be mutual for the relationship to be maintained, otherwise it is It is likely that the person who is with you is not the one "destined" to receive all the love you have for to give.
And finally, love is also knowing how to say goodbye.
Oh, and let's not forget that love can go much further than the traditional "romantic love", ok? Love has many forms and manifestations, you just need to find your own!
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