Exacerbated anger reactions can harm our well-being and that of our partners.
In times of stress and anger, people react in different ways. From screams to absolute silence, reactions are difficult to control and predict. Keep reading to understand how to deal with these moments of anger at the relationship.
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Here's How to Deal with Relationship Anger
The first step is to understand how you react when situations don't please you and get out of your control. By understanding this, you will know how to react when you are in a difficult situation.
If you need some set aside time to learn how to deal with your anger, don't bother setting aside that time for yourself.
However, do not close yourself off completely at all times, as this is harmful and can alienate you from your loved ones.
So know what to say when you have a moment of great anger:
- At this point I would like some time to process this;
- Now I can't talk about it;
- I'm too angry to speak;
- I need to breathe a little and we resume the conversation;
- I'm sad about something and that's why I'm angry.
At this point, also know what not to say:
- "I am fine."
- "Anything."
- "It is not a big deal."
Given that, here are some important points to help you in those moments of anger:
- Seek a distraction from the conflict before you get out of control;
- Take a deep breath: this will help you to get your head on straight and will slow down your heart rate, making your brain work more usefully.
- Express yourself in words: expose what you feel and think in a notebook or diary. This prevents you from sending or speaking unwanted words.
Regardless of the tips mentioned, the ideal is that you know what works for you and your relationship.