Responsible parents always want the best for their offspring, but some of their attitudes (most often unintentionally) end up being harmful to their development. For example, some phrases spoken to children can affect the development of a strong and healthy mind. To avoid this, know what not to say to your child.
6 phrases that should never be said to children
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In order for your child to grow up with a well-developed, strong and healthy mind, you should never utter the following phrases:
“Never let me catch you doing that again”
This phrase is a great encourager of bad habits. Alerting children in this way will encourage them to do wrong in a hidden way.
A great alternative to this is to talk about what's wrong with that and make the child understand why they can't do it.
"You're driving me crazy"
Of course, dealing with people means dealing with different behaviors and that creates stress. However, making it clear that your child manages to alter his emotions - in whatever way - can develop both a manipulative trait and a habit of shifting blame in him.
"This is perfect!"
Appreciating only things done close to perfection and making this clear to your child is quite harmful.
Uttering this sentence literally at all times makes your child have a great chance of becoming a perfectionist person, unable to accept what is not perfect.
Nobody is perfect and teaching this to little ones is essential for their good mental development.
“You are the best ever”
Always saying that your child is the best, especially when he surpasses someone in a certain activity, is not as harmless as it appears to be.
Quite the contrary, this causes the child to develop high levels of anxiety and an almost unbearable self-demand.
"Calm"
Making your child feel calm and comfortable is much more effective and recommended than simply telling them to calm down. In fact, normalizing momentary anger and teaching how to overcome them is very important for your child to develop mentally healthy.
“You will be fine”
As much as this sentence is uttered as a form of encouragement, it is not recommended to use it with your children for a simple and obvious reason. It is impossible to predict results, and saying so makes the child feel pressured and very vulnerable to frustration.