On the r/TrueOffMyChest subreddit, a mother opened up about her concerns regarding the relationship she is trying to build with her daughter. She has noticed that the connection between them is deteriorating and she feels disconnected.
She shared her growing feelings of disgust at how easily her husband is making a connection with their newborn daughter. In fact, she admitted that she hasn't been enjoying the relationship between father and daughter.
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Mum Reveals She Isn't Enjoying Dad's Relationship With His Newborn Daughter
The mother shared that as soon as she and her husband learned they were having a baby, they made the joint decision that he would be the stay-at-home dad while she worked full-time.
She mentioned that this dynamic seemed like the best option for them, considering her salary was significantly higher than his.
After giving birth, the mother had to return to work, which significantly limited the time she could spend with her daughter.
She shared that currently, she only manages to have about 20 minutes in the morning to interact with her daughter before she leaves for work.
When she gets home at night, her daughter is already asleep. This makes it difficult for her to establish a meaningful connection with the child during these hours.
This situation has been a source of concern and frustration for the mother, who wants to strengthen her bond with her daughter, despite the challenges posed by her workday.
She also shared that at night, her husband constantly insists on getting up to take care of the baby, worried about her rest. This is even when she expresses that she prefers to spend time with her daughter, even if it means being tired.
The moment the mother tries to feed her daughter with the bottle, the baby refuses to accept it. Furthermore, when she tries to soothe her to sleep, the daughter becomes agitated and cries unless her father is holding her.
Since the mother went back to work, they were only a few times alone, and on all those occasions, the daughter cried incessantly in her father's absence.
Although she does not regret her decision to work full time, and her husband is the father who stays at home, the mother expressed the desire to have more time available in the day to spend with her daughter.
Although her husband tries to cheer her up by sharing stories about the challenging times of the day, like when the child spits on him or has a dirty diaper, these stories end up making the child feel worse about the situation.
Forum users reacted to the post
In the comments, several people encouraged the mother to seek professional help if the feelings persist, suggesting the possibility that she may be struggling with postpartum depression. This is a condition that affects approximately 6.5% to 20% of women.
Other comments encouraged the mother to persist in spending more time with her daughter and communicate to her husband's desire to be responsible for feeding her at night, in order to improve the bond between they. These suggestions are aimed at strengthening the mother's relationship with her daughter.
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