The arrival of adolescence marks a phase in human life of discovery and understanding of one's own tastes and personality traits. personality. Parents often face problems about how to communicate with their children and end up saying a simple “no”.
It turns out that successful parenting depends on parents working to shape independence through reason, shared experience, and conversation. When there is this closer relationship between parents and children, it is easier to solve problems.
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How to talk to your teenager
From a teenager's point of view, life can be full of no's. Sometimes, as a parent, you have to say no to your child, either to protect them or to keep them from suffering. But this denial is not always received the way it should, after all, teenagers are in a questioning phase and, therefore, do not understand their parents' motives.
However, instead of just saying “no”, there are other, more appropriate ways of explaining to your child that he cannot or must not do such a thing.
Try to explain the reason for not
It may seem simple, but explaining the reason for your “no” goes a long way and can help your child understand your reasons. First, sometimes parents say “no” automatically, programmed, just because they think something should be done the way they think is best.
However, if you don't explain it to your child and just say no, he won't understand. That way, it's important that you, father or mother, think about the real motivation to say no to your child. If there really is a rationale, and if so, try to explain it to your child. In addition, when we think about the real reason, we end up reducing the number of “no”, many times because they are not really important.
On the other hand, teenagers also like to understand things, despite not fully understanding them. It is important to explain to teenagers why we say no. For example, teenagers might wonder why they aren't allowed to drink alcohol, and instead of saying a simple no, you could point out the consequences that alcohol brings.
And because they are still young, they may not yet be ready to deal with those consequences. That way, you can share your stories and experiences to help your child better understand your point of view in saying no.
Logic and storytelling work better for a teenager than discipline. Teenagers, who have their emotions exacerbated by hormones, yearn for independence but need to be shown the way.
